Here's a workbook for a process I created a few years ago and I have adapted it for people in my life, and shared it with some of my classes.

I believe that self-knowledge is wisdom, and the most important part of getting centered before you do relationship work. There is no point in communicating if you don't know what you want, or what you want to say, or even more distressing, who you are. It's not therapy, but therapeutic writing, with the goal to uncover more truths about yourself so you can communicate with clarity.